Lumps in Life
I only like a little bit lumpy stuff.
~wisdom from our almost 4 year old granddaughter
There are lumps and bumps as I journey through life. Ideally, there will only be a little bit of challenge, just enough to keep me growing, challenged and engaged. But even if that’s my preference, it’s not what’s guaranteed. Life throws stuff at us that may be more than we can handle, that sets us back financially or emotionally, that scars us…I don’t think that the circumstances I encounter in life are all personally designed so that I learn something or become a better person, but I can choose how to react to them.
My goal is to practice small “lumps” so that I can be better prepared for the big ones. I intentionally set high goals for myself that are a little more than I think I can achieve. That makes me push myself to find ways to be better and do better. Often, I live up to that challenge. When I don’t, it’s a lesson in taking my “lumps.” I also try to ask for and accept help from others. I invest in my relationships with others because, when a hard time comes, it’s those relationships that will help me feel cared for and supported enough to make it through.
I also accept that life isn’t a smooth, wide road. Expecting everything to always go my way is unrealistic and wouldn’t be in my best interest or for the greater good. I think it’s okay to be a little uncomfortable in the summer so that future generations have a better chance at a healthy planet and to inconveniently carry around extra silverware and silicone straws so I don’t add disposable items to the landfill. Understanding that everyone gets a few lumps in life makes the lumps I do get less personal and builds compassion for others. If I can expect to have some lumps, inconveniences and discomforts, I won’t be surprised or unsettled when they appear. In fact, they actually become smaller because I can see that it’s just a bump in the road.